FAQ // homebirth, midwives, and VBACs

today i am 35 weeks.
i have 35 days to go.
let’s hope less…

{this is boss and me last night at his aunt shelby’s wedding. more pictures and news on that after we spend the weekend recuperating at the cabin. it was a long 2 days, and we weren’t even on the planning committee…}

some questions i have been getting a lot lately:

why at home?

lots of reasons. in the comfort of my home, i get to do this the way i want to. i can eat when i want, have my kid around as much or little as i want, and labor how i feel i need to. i will be less likely to have interventions i don’t need, and it will be intimate and just us {and 2 midwives and probably my aunt.} 

so, aren’t you nervous to have your baby at home? 
what if something goes wrong?

no. i actually feel safer. with the percentage of women having repeat c-sections in hospitals {above 30% to begin with, much higher if you’ve had one previously}, i feel more confident i will actually have a vbac at home. midwives are equipped to handle emergencies that come up quickly, so if one presents, they can take care if it. the ones that take time to present (slowing heart rate…etc) give them time to let parents decide if they want to go to a hospital. they have never had to rush if they did end there.

isn’t is unsafe to have a vbac?

no. in fact, i had to sign a legal waiver because i’m having one. know what it said? after listing off all of the health benefits of a natural birth for mom and baby, the one risk mentioned was the less than .2 percent chance of uterine rupture. my sonographer let me know that my scar tissue is 16 mm thick, almost 4 times what it needs to be to ensure that isn’t a problem {probably because i was hell-bent on my double sutured uterus and a glued tummy}. and, most women who have uterine rupture, don’t bleed to death. they are restitched up and sent home.  it’s not unsafe. {though i know some of you probably still think it is.}

is that going to be a huge mess in your house?

real answer: i’m not sure. but the midwives let me know already the items i need to have, among them are a few extra sets of sheets, plastic sheets, a liner for the tub they bring..:etc. part of their service is cleaning up after and starting a load of laundry before they go. i plan to be in that tub for most of it, so i don’t imagine a huge mess.

so have you seen a doctor at all, or just the midwives?

again: midwives know everything there is to know about birth. they specialize in it. most are nurses first (two of mine are certified nurse midwives). they take blood, give exams, and have tons more advice and good info than any doctor i’ve been to. there is no need to also see a doctor, just cause they have the title…

what about vaccinations and a birth certificate?

they do that too.

does insurance cover it?

some do, and often it depends in the plan, the provider, and the type of midwife.  a certified nurse midwife is often in networks and can be used. there was one or two in our network here, but not ones i wanted to go to. because we have an HSA account now, and our plan means we have to pay everything up front and out of pocket until we meet out deductible, we will have some of it covered, and the rest reimbursed with tax-free money, which is nice. labs, sonograms…etc are all covered as usual though. for most places, a homebirth is LOTS cheaper than a hospital birth. truth be told, because of where we are we will pay a bit more for ours. still worth it to me.

disclaimer: i think moms should be able to do this birth thing however you want to. by saying this is my preference, i am in no way saying i think any other way is not as good, valid, or perfect for you.


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I am Meg, a photographer and designer and a wish-i-owned-a-house-er. My husband and I are self-declared foodies and LOVE projects. We blog about food and DIY adventures from sunny San Diego with our two cutie kids and have an apparel line at colormeapparel.com to keep us busy. Email me at colormemegblog@gmail.com to work with me!

8 comments on FAQ // homebirth, midwives, and VBACs

  1. Essie Rae iHeartPrettyPolish
    June 14, 2013 at 5:47 pm (4 years ago)

    I have been thinking about have a third. My first birth was vaginal and the second c-section because she was breech. I have been reading the risks, etc. about a vbac and I have read the same thing. I've read that the risks are greater with a c-section no matter what. I am leaning towards a vbac…that is, if we are able to have another 😉 Thanks for the info.! And good luck.

  2. Katie Seigfried
    June 14, 2013 at 6:01 pm (4 years ago)

    Great information! Honestly from what I've read, a VBAC sounds much safer! I'm glad you're able to do it the way you want!

  3. Jessica K
    June 14, 2013 at 9:22 pm (4 years ago)

    Wow! You are lucky. I am not currently pregnant, but when we moved, I looked for a new doctor because I want a vbac next time. I have to go 45 mins away to find someone who would let me. Birthing Centers up here won't even deal with me. Very frustrating!

  4. Vanessa Sokic
    June 15, 2013 at 2:24 am (4 years ago)

    Oh the politics in giving birth these days! I'm 31 weeks tomorrow with our first. I love that you posted this blog. People are so freaked out by vbacs and natural birth these days! You go girl! You got this. 🙂

  5. barbellsandbuttercream.com
    June 15, 2013 at 2:37 pm (4 years ago)

    All three of my kiddos were VB so I have never had a CS. And all 3 were born in the hospital. However, my first two were with doctors who used pitocin and my 3rd was with a midwife who waited until I was actually ready to deliver. What a difference! I'm done having babies, but still see the midwife for my yearly physical. I practically consider her family! Congratulations.

  6. Jackie
    June 19, 2013 at 3:45 am (4 years ago)

    My VBAC was one of the greatest (but hardest!) experiences of my life. You'll rock it! Get that baby, lady!

  7. Barbaloot
    June 20, 2013 at 7:53 pm (4 years ago)

    I don't have any experience with pregnancy or birth at this point and I think it's nice that there are options for women with regards to how they want to deliver. However, I am a little surprised you refer to doctor as someone who " just has the title." They went to years of extra school, received specialized training—not to mention the thousands of dollars they spent—to

    • Meg Clifford
      June 20, 2013 at 9:04 pm (4 years ago)

      I did not intend to insult doctors at all. I did not say that doctors "just have a title" but I was trying to say that if you choose a midwife for your prenatal care, there isn't a need to also see a doctor. The care is covered in the same way a doctor would. It is just that many see the title of doctor as one that comes with more clout, when in this case, it doesn't necessarily